Sabbatical from dating
I've been licking some compassion-deserving, emotional wounds and listening to the sage advice they had to teach me. I set the intention to curl up in the lap of my sadness and let it speak its wisdom. They told me about limiting beliefs I've clung onto about love, about myself and about what I'm still afraid of.When we see our experiences with others, both positive and negative, as a way to learn more about ourselves, we always have new lessons to learn about ourselves and the roots of our behaviors and habits of thinking.The goal of seeing these is not to fix a part of ourselves or to feel that we have been damaged. But what about the other times when a break from dating feels unintentional, and well, unpleasant?Sometimes, these "breaks" can stretch for years or even decades.And while it's OK to give ourselves however much time we need to heal, sometimes these prolonged bouts of singledom come from avoidance and fear.
When we feel this way, we defend ourselves from experiencing these struggles by just avoiding dating altogether.We fear being devastated, even destroyed, by this loss.We protect ourselves from this disappointment by watching from the sidelines rather than getting in the game.I knew that if I jumped from one relationship straight into another, I wouldn't have seen what I needed to in myself in order to attract the kind of person I'm looking for.When we get clearer about our deeper self, we attract different kinds of people.